I hear from a lot of my clients that they are tired of the same ol’ interactions with people or situations in their life.
To follow up yesterdays post on stopping the Groundhog Day effect, I demonstrate the power of this practiced skill in a short video below. This story was from one of the funniest exchanges I’ve ever had with another person. The poor guy didn’t know WHAT to do with me… LOL.
The truth is that the experiences we have can be a direct result of our attitude towards it – or how we “see it”. We say “this is going to be hard” or “it’s going to be painful” and we’ve already set the stage whether we mean to or not.
“When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.” Wayne Dyer
If you’ve ever dreaded certain experiences – pushy sales people, annoying relatives or awkward moments that you can’t avoid then this post is for you!
What’s possible when you change your state of mind?
Anything, that’s what.
Remember a moment where you got the BEST news in your life – maybe someone told you they loved you for the first time, you bought your first car, or you found out you were pregnant or the day you got engaged. In the happiest state of mind, it is nearly impossible to get pissed off, isn’t it? Because you don’t care what anyone else is doing or saying. You were just riding out the good vibes.
In the story below, I dreaded engaging with these young sales guys that would come into my office desperate and seriously pushy. I learned that when I was in a different state of mind, I could be myself, honest and assertive while still being loving, fun and playful. It was like discovering a goldmine!! Since that day, I no longer worry about getting sucked into into buying something I didn’t want or need for fear I’d come across as bitchy or impolite. I turned these dreaded experiences into something I enjoy now.
In just a shift of attitude, perspective or approach, we can turn awkward or uncomfortable situations into experiences we enjoy and even master with kindness and humour.
The first step is being aware (aka present) to how you see the situation, or the story you tell yourself about it. Once you start playing around with altering your story, it becomes one of the most valuable skills with practice – like everything in life.
I hope you enjoy one of my favourite stories as much as I enjoy telling it – and consider for your own situation- how can you change your mindset about a difficult, uncomfortable or challenging thing I’m experiencing?
Ask, how else could I approach or see it?
You don’t need to take on a totally bizarre persona as I mentioned yesterday (however it’s pretty fun when you can) but not necessary.
A simple shift can be incredibly powerful. Good luck and have fun with it!