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Surviving Sudden Death: Healing regret, remorse and unforgivable choices when things end without warning.

Surviving Sudden Death: Healing regret, remorse and unforgivable choices when things end without warning.

Hey Dad, I’ve heard people discuss how time is a manmade construct. That it’s not linear but more like a series of multiple realities running parallel alongside another. I mention this because with the first anniversary of your death coming tomorrow,  I’m been having my own torturous experience of this concept. For the past two weeks especially, it’s felt as if I can ‘see’ me moving through life in the weeks leading up to the day you died – like I’m trapped on the other side of soundproof glass as a silent observer unable to warn my oblivious self as to what’s coming. I’ve watched me and my family go camping with the boys over spring break, take uneventful trips to the park and even visit the ER with my youngest after he decided to swallow a steel bolt. Just the other day (a year ago) I joked on Facebook about the worst right of “passage” I never expected to move through with the weirdest ‘treasure hunt’ ahead of me… it was all so funny. The present-day me presses her hands and forehead against the glass and begins to scrutinize every decision I made – or didn’t make…  Why didn’t I go see you? I don’t understand… what were we doing that was so important to NOT go and see you? It was a long weekend and only a short ferry ride. I was off with the kids for TWO WEEKS! And I never saw you? The wave of regret that follows punches me square in the guts. Every breath in brings a frantic sense of angst, panic covered in remorse. It’s like the present-day me believes I can actually change the way things went down but at the same time tortured and aware that I...

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How To Get Out of Your Way (and Get Your Sh*t Together)

How To Get Out of Your Way (and Get Your Sh*t Together)

How do I begin from a mess? What are my dreams? What do I want? How do I figure this (sh*t) out and make it happen? Why does it feel so hard?   The answers to the above are in the below “crash course” created to help you get out of your way to start playing with the life that is all around you, BEGGING to be played with. It really is much easier than you think. And this is in part of the problem so many of us face – my approach equals less thinking and more feeling so join me as I blow up some serious BS around what dreaming  is, what it isn’t and what it actually looks like to pursue our own potential. Over two live calls (links below), I share as much wisdom, theory and practical strategies from my tool belt to shift you (or someone you know) from stuck into the realm of possibility – where Daring to Suck actually happens so you can see how accessible change is for you at every turn. Want to make meaningful shifts in your life, relationships or the work you are meant to do in the world? Click and listen. Because what you want, also wants you. And I am here to get you two together finally! Lesson 1 – What dreaming is, what it isn’t and how to get started from where you are.   Lesson 2 – How to make dreaming ACCESSIBLE and doable, powerful strategies and tangible action to bring your dreams to life. If you like and love, please share it with anyone you know who needs a loving reminder that you don’t in fact have...

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Just because you CAN doesn’t mean you SHOULD.

Just because you CAN doesn’t mean you SHOULD.

Women are amazing. Period. But just because we are capable of handling A LOT – doesn’t mean we should stay at this setting continuously pumping awesome through our veins 24 hours a day.   It’s almost like once we see what we are capable of our mind says “why would we ever operate on a lower setting moving forward now that we KNOW what we can do?” It’s out of sheer appreciation and awe of our own power. I get it. Why would we ever slow down or go back to being “less than” awesome? Here is where I feel we can misunderstand our own superpower –  which is to embody the feminine. Which is powerful in itself and highly misunderstood. To me, this part understands and surrenders to the ebb and flow of life. Where we demonstrate our innate knowing to move with life and not against it. Where we rise up to honour the great rushes of energy and also intuitively tune in to when we need to rest and reflect in stillness as needed. Somewhere along the line we put the value in results, outcomes, achievements and the “I can do it all-ness” mentality we know is possible. And shit get’s out of whack. Have you been growing potatoes? A few years ago when my husband and I began gardening in a community plot, we were frustrated because nothing we planted did very well. It just withered or didn’t show up at all. We did everything we could but nothing seemed to come up above the ground. When we mentioned our frustrations with my sister in law (a horticultural wizard) she asked if the previous...

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What To Do When Daring to Suck… really F*cking SUCKS.

What To Do When Daring to Suck… really F*cking SUCKS.

First, let me explain my absence in writing and say #sorryNOTsorry for the length of this post (but much like this process)… it’s a doozy and totally worth it! In June, I returned from my own Daring to Suck adventure from an exclusive (aka highly priced) make-me-or-break-me writing retreat I attended … and since then, I’ve been in hiding. Or should I say… in healing. Me not sharing publicly about what happened caused a level of inner conflict and paralysis I haven’t felt since I first got pushed off the ledge of my “practical” life 7 years ago. I told myself I conveniently needed time to “process” it all but days turned into weeks and now MONTHS. I’m finally calling bullshit and speaking my truth. Why has it taken me so long? I guess like many of us, I believed my “truth” would hurt or harm people I truly care about. It wasn’t their intention for me to experience what I did so I thought it was good enough to express privately with my inner circle. But how am I serving the world if I leave the SUCK out from Daring to Suck? My mojo is rooted in shining light through the dark and not running away from it – so here is what happened. I went into the retreat wanting to be ALL IN and in true Daring To Suck style, I put my heart, soul and money on the table in the hopes it (“I”) would be received, seen, and celebrated towards my goal.  A part of me wanted to be lifted up like Simba from the Lion King for all to behold! And I don’t...

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How Your Emotions Are Like A Pissed Off Possum. No, Really. (VIDEO)

As many of you know, I filled up OVERNIGHT after I offered 12 x FREE “Deep Dive”  calls on my Facebook Page to anyone wanting clarity around their “inner clutter”  or conflicting inner voices. I couldn’t be more grateful as my wish is to show more and more people that the perceived “baggage” we carry around (inner critic, judgement, anger, resentment etc) is really just trying to get our attention for us to see a much deeper more supportive message that is here to HELP move us forward – not hold us back. It’s an energy sucker to manage this stuff too. It’s heavy and I want us all to be free to live without it. And then THIS video crosses my path. It ADORABLY articulates every single call I’ve had to date. You’ve just GOT to see it. This is it, in four of the cutest minutes you could possibly experience and it has to be said, the way the woman handles it couldn’t be any better. Here are the similarities I’ve seen that relate to this beautiful video of discovery, connection and freedom. Step 1. Holy shit My emotions are like this really f*cking pissed off possum! Step 2. Together, we create space and room for them to be just as they are… some show up irrational, angry and prickly to “be with”. But we maintain our distance and loving presence and give them room to …well… hiss. LOL. Step 3. We assure them, they get to feel just as they do and that we are not going anywhere. We are right here and are not trying to change their mind or convince...

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