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Just because you CAN doesn’t mean you SHOULD.

Just because you CAN doesn’t mean you SHOULD.

Women are amazing. Period. But just because we are capable of handling A LOT – doesn’t mean we should stay at this setting continuously pumping awesome through our veins 24 hours a day.   It’s almost like once we see what we are capable of our mind says “why would we ever operate on a lower setting moving forward now that we KNOW what we can do?” It’s out of sheer appreciation and awe of our own power. I get it. Why would we ever slow down or go back to being “less than” awesome? Here is where I feel we can misunderstand our own superpower –  which is to embody the feminine. Which is powerful in itself and highly misunderstood. To me, this part understands and surrenders to the ebb and flow of life. Where we demonstrate our innate knowing to move with life and not against it. Where we rise up to honour the great rushes of energy and also intuitively tune in to when we need to rest and reflect in stillness as needed. Somewhere along the line we put the value in results, outcomes, achievements and the “I can do it all-ness” mentality we know is possible. And shit get’s out of whack. Have you been growing potatoes? A few years ago when my husband and I began gardening in a community plot, we were frustrated because nothing we planted did very well. It just withered or didn’t show up at all. We did everything we could but nothing seemed to come up above the ground. When we mentioned our frustrations with my sister in law (a horticultural wizard) she asked if the previous owners grew potatoes – which they had. She said that for us to see any growth, the soil needed replenishing, extreme nurturing and supplementation to bring it back to a healthy PH. Apparently potatoes suck the life out of soil making it practically useless with nothing left to give. I now this metaphor returns as I emerge from growing a bumper crop of potatoes.  After the incredible output of energy and excitement I experienced in the first week of the year (launching my 8 Days of Daring  Experiment and selling out my Live Daringly Sessions), I was blown away to see what I was capable of learning and putting into practice in my business. On last day I had a stack of clarity calls set up and was promptly hit by the mother of all colds that I’m still trying to shake off weeks later. This was a result of running on HIGH for three weeks straight, getting very low quality, being on my phone too much and generally buzzing from the learning and newness it all presented. It was exhilarating and exciting in the moment but now I feel aches and pains I can’t explain and feel the urge to do very little. I’ve pulled back my energy, cancelled plans and allowed myself to listen to where my energy wants to take me (which is back to bed). I started turning my phone off at night and consciously choosing comfort at every turn to replenish my soil. When we know better, we BE better (and wish it happened faster) I’m learning recovery doesn’t happen overnight as I hear my mind inquire “So.. are you better yet? Can we go back to “normal” now?” holding the assumption that I should stay at that level of output and energy I held those three weeks. My heart and soul aren’t as direct as the mind but I...

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Day 14: Daring to Stick with It #100DaySelfConnection Experiment

Day 14: Daring to Stick with It #100DaySelfConnection Experiment

Last week I hit day 14 of the #100DaySelfConnection Experiment inspired by Kyle Cease. A few things I cover in this short update are as follows: What it’s like to surrender into the “unknown” A little bit about the unexpected “place” I found What’s available to us ALL when we make time for this practice How to find answers to life’s challenges in the stillness Click here to play video   Thanks for following along and if you are doing this experiment too, please comment below and tell me what YOU are noticing! Happy Connections, x...

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Daring to Self Connect #100DaySelfConnection Experiment

Daring to Self Connect #100DaySelfConnection Experiment

Today I went LIVE to talk about the power of Self Connection. For some context, the FIRST step in Daring to Suck in our life/work/business is when we Dare to TUNE IN. When we slow the hell down and intentionally listen to what our heart, soul, spirit and life is telling us. In a world that is hardwired to DO, Get Results and be BUSY, this concept is downright uncomfortable to consider and a shocking jolt to the system. Three years ago it took me hiring my own coach to help facilitate this tender process out of fear of what I would find. I hopped on Periscope for the first time today to talk about an experiment in self connection where I am sitting in stillness, silence and meditation for 100 days to reconnect to myself in a deeper, more meaningful way. I’ve never really been a meditator so to sit for ONE HOUR is completely foreign and something I’ve never done. Until now. I am currently on DAY 3 and what I’m learning and experiencing is fascinating. If this is something you may want to try, here is the replay that explains me, my work and why this experiment of self connection is crucial in the journey of transformation. This is me on Day 3: Why am I doing this?  I’ve been watching Kyle Cease introduce this experiment, and he is sitting for 2 HOURS everyday for 100 days (he is roughly 19 days in) and could not help but be hooked and intrigued by what he is experiencing. And one thing I tell my own clients is that whenever you feel compelled, intrigued, drawn into or interested in something… follow it! So that’s what I’m doing. Here is how you can follow along… First, Sign up on Periscope and follow me @DaringtoSuck (attached to my Twitter account) to be alerted on future scopes on what I’m learning and discovering. Second, I will be sharing replays of my experience in my Facebook Group, Empathetic Badasses (click here to join!) not necessarily DAILY but frequently as I feel inspired. Who knows WHAT I will encounter over the next 3+ months but if you are at all “hooked” join and share what YOU are learning in the Facebook Group as you will be met with loving badassery at all angles. To living fully expressed, connected and daringly open-hearted! Keri-Anne...

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The Four Agreements #4: Always Do Your Best, End of Story. Literally. (Day 16) #25DaysOfPresence

The Four Agreements #4: Always Do Your Best, End of Story. Literally. (Day 16) #25DaysOfPresence

  Doing our best is about taking action, doing what we love and feels good because it makes us happy. When we do things  because we want to, not because we have to.   It’s creating and enjoying the process, setting a goal and going for it without any attachment to attaining it. This is when you dare to act on or express that something inside you – a want, need, desire or impulse and allow it to emerge in whatever shape or form it chooses. It could be writing, baking, music, dancing, designing, arranging, building or dreaming and more. When you give yourself credit for doing your best it’s beyond empowering. The cynics out there might say this agreement sounds ‘convenient’ or an easy way out and yes, this is another perspective that is possible but it reeks of judgement, expectations and pressure from the storyteller in their head.  If we concede to this argument then the path taken feels locked down by living for the pleasing of others, or maintaining the status quo. We cannot be responsible for how other people interpret our behaviour. I believe we are responsible for being truthful with ourselves, first and foremost. For example, where the hell have I been for three days? Not here, that’s for sure. I’ve been doing my best. 🙂 (and NO I didn’t time the absence just for this post – call it Divine Timing..LOL) My original goal was to write a little something everyday and truth be told, I was THRILLED to hit 13 days in a row. It felt great to create and write everyday and it was also a lot to keep up with. By the time Saturday arrived, my best involved having the kids on my own, a visit from my Dad, a family Christmas party, a day trip to Vancouver Island, followed by a full day of clients and biz development with a night of meaningful connections at a Crave Event in Vancouver. It’s fair to say that with all this goodness going on, my best intentions vanished into thin air. And I was okay with it. Okay – not totally true. There was a moment where a pang of “I should” showed up and then I saw I was truly, doing my best and let it go. I don’t like to do internal battles anymore if I can help it. In practicing being impeccable with my word, not taking things personally, not making assumptions and doing my best – it becomes increasingly easier to pinpoint what the truth is vs. a bunch of old lies I no longer want to engage in. I was enjoying the reasons I didn’t have time to write so when the question became,“Do I really want to ruin this good feeling by staying up until 3AM every night and exhaust myself to make sure I have something posted?” I responded with ‘I make the rules and I say, no thanks.’ It was easy because I knew I was doing my best with the time and energy I had. Nuff said. End of story. When you know you’ve done all you could based on how you felt, what you had to work with and the varying life circumstances, the standard of ‘your best’ fluctuates if you allow it to have flexibility outside of a rigid measuring stick. If we are the designers of our own experience, why wouldn’t we make it feel better for ourselves? Over the last few weeks, I’ve also cancelled on a few holiday & birthday parties I committed to because going would have felt like a complete stretch to me mentally and physically. By the time...

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An Unexpected Love Song for 2014

I wanted to title this post “Some lessons don’t land the first (or tenth time) around” but who knew that my lack of self care over the holidays would result in me discovering my anthem (and love song) for 2014. The past month had me completely sucked into the cliché of holiday chaos. On several moments I heard myself saying “I’d like to slow down and just take a moment to breathe” or in other words, practicing what I preach. Self love, self care, self anything! But did I? Not really. Whenever I tried to ‘check in’ with me, I felt this sense of anxiousness and frustrated that my peace wasn’t coming fast enough so I didn’t want to stay too long in those quiet places to let whatever was in me come up and out (feelings, thoughts, writing) – so, I rushed myself to just get back to real life and get through it. You’d think I’d see the signs to stop and pay attention but apparently I thought I had it handled. Nope. The price I paid was my peace, feeling ungrounded and not experiencing my life however it was showing up.  My husband (God love him) paid the price of having to watch me melt down a few days before Christmas and then after when the feelings were still lingering, instead of just being with my ‘stuff’ and giving it some time to figure it out, I chose to ignore, get my head down and keep going. What resulted was I felt edgy, more emotional, reactive and definitely less grateful and loving.  As much as I ‘tried’, I struggled to feel present and found myself doing my way through it all because it felt easier (aka more comfortable). By the grace of all things holy, there were ‘peak-a-boo’ moments where I witnessed the magic in my kids faces as they lit up, felt the love exchanged between me and those around me, but before I knew it, the decorations were down and the New Year has come and gone.  Like I said, some lessons take a few times around until they stick. After a very late night ringing in the New Year with our kids, I woke up today from a much needed nap with the John Legend song All of Me playing in my head with a thought that I couldn’t shake and had to write down – It’s how we’re in relationship with our self that creates our reality (our happiness, suffering, joy etc). I pulled this song up on YouTube, listening with this message in mind and the tears fell hard and fast.  In this moment, I found my new perspective and platform for 2014. That it all begins within and to LOVE ME– NO MATTER WHAT. I say these words to my husband and boys all the time but what if I said it to myself and really meant it? What would it be like to love all my “curves and edges” and my “perfect imperfections”, my crazy emotions and thoughts – and to stick by me when things get uncomfortable, be loving and have my back even when I’m acting or feeling like an jerk? What happens when I give my all, to me? “You are my end and my beginning, even when I lose I’m winning.” More tears. This is a song about unconditional love and I’m claiming it for...

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