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How Speaking Up Has The Power To Transform Our Dreams Into Reality. #LivingTheDream

How Speaking Up Has The Power To Transform Our Dreams Into Reality. #LivingTheDream

  Dreams cannot survive if we keep them hidden in a dark closet or treasure chest in our heart. They need to be set free to take form and live a life of their own. They need to be seen. They need to feel the sun on their face, feel love and breath to stretch and grow as we move forward along side them. When they are shut away for nobody to know about, they dry up and die. For anyone who cringes at the idea of resolutions and dreaming, my next post will help you see you are not alone. I was a ‘practical realist’ most of my life and it served me to a certain degree as I believed on some subconscious level it would keep me more safe and secure. I am now humbled to see things much differently, seeing how much more living is available  when we dare to dream. Scary and unchartered territory – yes. Worth it? Totally. So very worth it. I received three books that are going to help make a dream I declared recently, come true – to write a book that really helps people. My book wants to take people from existing (going through the motions) in life to really LIVING it. It wants it to lift you up, make you laugh and cry – and to inspire action, creativity and self love every step of the way. (Taking a breath…) Whew!Actually putting this out into the world is big fucking deal. And doing so means I’m even more likely to see it happen. I don’t know how or when this will happen and I’m willing to loosen my grip on the details.  What is important is declaring it out loud and sharing it. Doing so makes it REAL. So it actually has a chance. I wasn’t always willing to do this. I hated dreaming. Dreaming in my experience was airy-fairy, a waste of time and only led to disappointment and frustration. So, I’m a new dreamer. I’m three years in and I’ve learned when I take time to discover what I need, name what I want, write it down and share it – it’s becomes a magnetic beacon that draws more and more good stuff to me that supports the dream. This shit is REAL people. I’m a converted believer now. Declaring what I wanted in the beginning of 2014 brought the most incredible experiences to me. I spoke from my heart in front of hundreds of people – like 6 times! I grew my business and started writing a freaking book. I met inspiration at every turn and I did all of this while being able to spend time with my kids and not miss a beat. I’m tired, yes. But I’m also really, really satisfied. I was finally able to say I’m Living The Dream, without being sarcastic. By getting clear on what I wanted for my life a year ago, I experienced one of most conscious and self-supportive years of my life. I don’t think it would have been this way if I hadn’t given myself the time or permission to speak this out loud. I took this picture (right) of my new dreaming tools and a part of me burst out laughing. She is like this Delighted Observer completely thrilled to see what’s happening in my life. She remembers just three short years ago, I was stuck, unsure, scared and uncertain of everything. She never could have fathomed my life to be what it is now, full of Creativity, Exploration, Forgiveness, Freedom and Fun. She’s like Elaine from Seinfeld shoving...

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The Four Agreements #4: Always Do Your Best, End of Story. Literally. (Day 16) #25DaysOfPresence

The Four Agreements #4: Always Do Your Best, End of Story. Literally. (Day 16) #25DaysOfPresence

  Doing our best is about taking action, doing what we love and feels good because it makes us happy. When we do things  because we want to, not because we have to.   It’s creating and enjoying the process, setting a goal and going for it without any attachment to attaining it. This is when you dare to act on or express that something inside you – a want, need, desire or impulse and allow it to emerge in whatever shape or form it chooses. It could be writing, baking, music, dancing, designing, arranging, building or dreaming and more. When you give yourself credit for doing your best it’s beyond empowering. The cynics out there might say this agreement sounds ‘convenient’ or an easy way out and yes, this is another perspective that is possible but it reeks of judgement, expectations and pressure from the storyteller in their head.  If we concede to this argument then the path taken feels locked down by living for the pleasing of others, or maintaining the status quo. We cannot be responsible for how other people interpret our behaviour. I believe we are responsible for being truthful with ourselves, first and foremost. For example, where the hell have I been for three days? Not here, that’s for sure. I’ve been doing my best. 🙂 (and NO I didn’t time the absence just for this post – call it Divine Timing..LOL) My original goal was to write a little something everyday and truth be told, I was THRILLED to hit 13 days in a row. It felt great to create and write everyday and it was also a lot to keep up with. By the time Saturday arrived, my best involved having the kids on my own, a visit from my Dad, a family Christmas party, a day trip to Vancouver Island, followed by a full day of clients and biz development with a night of meaningful connections at a Crave Event in Vancouver. It’s fair to say that with all this goodness going on, my best intentions vanished into thin air. And I was okay with it. Okay – not totally true. There was a moment where a pang of “I should” showed up and then I saw I was truly, doing my best and let it go. I don’t like to do internal battles anymore if I can help it. In practicing being impeccable with my word, not taking things personally, not making assumptions and doing my best – it becomes increasingly easier to pinpoint what the truth is vs. a bunch of old lies I no longer want to engage in. I was enjoying the reasons I didn’t have time to write so when the question became,“Do I really want to ruin this good feeling by staying up until 3AM every night and exhaust myself to make sure I have something posted?” I responded with ‘I make the rules and I say, no thanks.’ It was easy because I knew I was doing my best with the time and energy I had. Nuff said. End of story. When you know you’ve done all you could based on how you felt, what you had to work with and the varying life circumstances, the standard of ‘your best’ fluctuates if you allow it to have flexibility outside of a rigid measuring stick. If we are the designers of our own experience, why wouldn’t we make it feel better for ourselves? Over the last few weeks, I’ve also cancelled on a few holiday & birthday parties I committed to because going would have felt like a complete stretch to me mentally and physically. By the time...

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